When other people feel sad, our instincts tell us that we need to somehow make them happy again. Our society views sadness as a disease that can be cured only through cheering up. We often see sorrow as a sign of weakness, so, naturally, we want our loved ones to get over it and feel happy again. However, that is not the best way to comfort those who are grieving.
“To negate my sorrows is to say that my dreams and the things that are important to me, don’t matter,” said Hawkes. “Allowing myself to feel sorrow opens my heart, brings me to the depths of humility and makes me receptive to the Spirit of God.”
Hawkes highlighted Mosiah 18:9, which instructs us to “mourn with those that mourn” and not to cheer up those who mourn. The best way to comfort those who are grieving is to be sensitive to their needs. We can be empathetic by trying to understand their pain instead of trying to heal it. When we are caring and kind to those who are grieving, we are expressing Christlike love through our actions. When we mourn with those who mourn, we grow closer to our friends and family who are experiencing grief, and ultimately we grow closer to Christ.
To learn more about mourning with those that mourn, read Brooke Facer’s full article “‘Sorrow and peace, they can coexist’: A message from the mother of an angel at BYU Women’s Conference.”
Source: Deseret News
—Mariana Chrisney, Mormon Insights
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