Rather than relying on Hollywood’s depiction of love, let’s trust the Lord’s prophets to guide us on how to choose a spouse.
We’ve all heard the beautiful chimes that ring in movies when two people finally meet and marry. We sigh and ache to find “the one” for ourselves. But despite our most valiant efforts to hear the music and find “the one,” reality doesn’t seem to work that way.
In a Brigham Young University devotional, Thomas B. Holman, a professor of marriage, family, and human development at BYU, dispels the false expectations that Hollywood movies and books can teach us regarding love.
Since our mortal bodies fall apart with time, relying on physical attraction shortchanges our ability to love. Brother Holman quotes President Spencer W. Kimball: “The love of which the Lord speaks is not only physical attraction, but also faith, confidence, understanding, and partnership. It is devotion and companionship, parenthood, common ideals, and standards. It is cleanliness of life and sacrifice and unselfishness. This kind of love never tires nor wanes.”
Brother Holman suggests that as we search for love, we look for someone who complements us in our strengths and weaknesses. The cliché “opposites attract” is true in many ways, but opposites can also conflict if a man and woman don’t share the same core values.
When we look for the best possible teammate for the game of life, we want to find not only someone we enjoy being with during the good times, but also someone we can trust and love during the hard times.
Read Thomas B. Holman’s full article, “The Right Person, the Right Place, the Right Time: Guidelines for Wisely Choosing a Spouse.”
Source: BYU Speeches
—Chelsea Jamison, Mormon Insights
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