Learn what the Doctrine and Covenants can teach us about replacing harmful perfectionism with faith in the Savior.
A rejection in the mail from your dream school. A big red letter “F” on the paper you stayed up all night to write. A failed relationship. When we fall short of our own expectations, many of us struggle with feelings of inadequacy or even failure.
Elder C. Max Caldwell, in an article from the Religious Studies Center, turns to the Doctrine and Covenants to discuss how we can find healing from the wounds that perfectionism can cause. He explains that the antidote for unrealistic expectations is a closer relationship with the Savior.
How can we know that we are accepted and loved by the Savior? According to Elder Caldwell, we can stop beating ourselves up when we
• have a contrite spirit,
• obey the Lord’s ordinances,
• have meek and edifying speech,
• reflect the Lord’s truths in our works and teachings.
These principles shouldn’t justify us when we knowingly disobey, and they shouldn’t frustrate us when we fail to perform every action perfectly. Elder Caldwell refers to the gifts of the Spirit listed in D&C 46 to show how the Lord feels about us:
Source: Religious Studies Center
—Abby Pace, Mormon Insights
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